The Wish Project

Wishes for November 2007

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Welcome to the Wish Project, a blog aimed at adding strength and energy to individual wishes as well as bringing community together.

Anyone can leave a wish about anything (click here to read about how you can add your own wish).
If you do leave a wish, all I ask is that you come back here from time to time to read other people's wishes and add your good energy to their thoughts.
If you can help someone achieve their wish, contact them via their blog or linked email address. If there is no contact information, send me an email at thewishproject@gmail.com and I will try to get you in touch with them.

Wishes

I wish to find peace and understanding that my decision to stop ttc after 3 miscarriages and multiple health issues and 3+ years of actively ttc- that I have made the right decision, that I am not being selfish- these were dreams too (from The Journey to a Happy Healthier Me...)
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Do you want to leave a message about any of the wishes above? Click here to leave a note.

November's Good Messages

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Did you read a wish this month that touched your heart? Do you want to leave a message for any of the November Wishers? Please place a note in the comment section and it will be moved into the body of this post as soon as possible.

JJ, I hope peace finds you soon. Hearing announcements is always so hard (Kristen).
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Wishes for October 2007

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Welcome to the Wish Project, a blog aimed at adding strength and energy to individual wishes as well as bringing community together.

Anyone can leave a wish about anything (click here to read about how you can add your own wish).
If you do leave a wish, all I ask is that you come back here from time to time to read other people's wishes and add your good energy to their thoughts.
If you can help someone achieve their wish, contact them via their blog or linked email address. If there is no contact information, send me an email at thewishproject@gmail.com and I will try to get you in touch with them.

Wishes

Only one wish for me . . . and it's the "mother" of all wishes. Oh how I wish wish wish that these little embryos in me that I love so much grow unto a healthy baby so that my wonderful hubby can be a wonderful daddy (Chris).
I wish for strength and good energy for my mother; to find the ability to pull herself out of a difficult place (Anonymous).
I'm wishing that things continue to go well for this pregnancy and that come December we have a healthy baby boy and a healthy me, too. No CMV infections, please (Jess).
I have 2 wishes.
1) That my mom gets better soon and gets out of the hospital
and
2) That this cycle is "IT" for me (Journeywoman)
I have two dear wishes: That I do not miscarry this "miracle" baby I never expected to conceive...and I bring him/her home in June 2008, healthy and happy (Tina)
I wish that the upcoming FET will work. This is our last cycle and I really want my wife to have her wish (Sheila).
I wish that my mom gets to meet my child(ren) (Moosk).
I wish for my hCG to reach "negative" so I can resume my life, such as it were (Amanda).
Thanks to the positive thoughts of so many in this community I received my first wish already and was able to transfer 3 embryos. My next wish is that at least one of these embryos I'm carrying inside me results in a healthy baby (Mary).
I wish for the insurance company to realize that approving us in September for IVF then telling us our coverage ends Nov 1 is wrong and will grandfather us in. I also wish that we won't have to use the insurance, that our cryo/egg cycle works (littleangelkisses).
I wish that I could find a new subset of the community: those who already have a child, but are grieving the possibility that they may not be able to conceive and/or adopt another child. Grieving the loss of our 'plans' for siblings and/or child spacing. Trying not to offend primary-infertiles by appearing ungrateful for the blessings we already have. Worrying that the grief we feel will impact our parenting, marriages, friendships, etc. I also wish that I can find peace with being indefinitely sidelined without giving up entirely (B).
I wish... that my first scan tomorrow shows a healthy 7w3d thriving embryo with a strong heartbeat so that I can finally BREATHE again (Chili).
I'm wishing for mental peace: I've had many close friends announce pregnancy in the last few weeks, and it has worn on me more than I first realized--I don't want a heavy heart, and I need to let go of these bitter feelings. I need some relief (JJ).

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Do you want to leave a message about any of the wishes above? Click here to leave a note.

October's Good Messages

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Did you read a wish this month that touched your heart? Do you want to leave a message for any of the October Wishers? Please place a note in the comment section and it will be moved into the body of this post as soon as possible.

Chris, I hope that you get strong, doubling betas next week.
Jess, I hope your family grows this winter and it becomes two on two in your house!
Journeywoman, I'm sending good wishes for your mum and many more for this cycle.
Tina, I hope it is an uneventful nine months followed by many many years of happiness.
Sheila, adding my good thoughts to your wish.
Moosk, I will be praying for your mom to meet your children (Kristen).
Mary, I'm holding out hope for you and your 3 embryos. Wishing you the best (Chris)!
Mary, I hope your betas keep doubling and that you really will get the prize at the end of this (Kristen).
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Date Archives

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Peruse past wishes as well as the wishes granted archives below...

First Month: October 2007.

Wishes Granted

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If your wish comes true, please take a moment to add a comment below thanking the community and telling us how your wish turned out. Notes left in the comment section will be moved up to the body of the post as soon as possible.

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How to Add a Wish

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Adding a wish is simple: write your wish in the comments section on the open wish thread.

Rules for Wishing Here:

You can make it as long or short as you need.
You can provide background information or you can simply state your wish.
You can place more than one wish on the thread.
Each month, a new open thread begins.
Wishes left in the comments section are moved into the body of the post as soon as possible. Putting it there more than once won't make it move up into the body of the post faster.
You may wish anonymously or sign-in so that the wish links back to your blog.
You may not advertise anything in the comments section. Advertisements will be removed immediately.
You can wish for anything, though wishes deemed inappropriate will be removed. What is inappropriate? Those that wish harm to another person, that are violent in nature, or that threaten another individual or community.

If you have a question, email me at thewishproject@gmail.com.

History of the Wish Project

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I know it's going to sound a little like "clap your hands if you believe in fairies," but I really believe that when you put your wishes out there and allow others to add their energy, it not only makes wishes somehow come true, but it brings community together around a single thought for a moment of time. I know, I know, you're not supposed to tell your birthday wish or it won't come true or read your fortune cookie paper aloud or the opposite will happen or...

Rubbish.

What are wish lists except an active way of ensuring that your wishes have a chance to come true? While wish lists are usually tied to material items, there is no rule in the universe stating that the only wishes that can be announced are those of the baby registry variety.

Which brings us to the Wish Project.

An online friend has been struggling to conceive with donor eggs. Pretty much everything that could possibly go wrong has gone wrong and it has been an emotionally painful, financial suffocating endeavour towards parenthood. A few days ago, she wrote to ask me to add my wishes that they get to embryo transfer. Things weren't looking well with the cycle. Only two eggs had fertilized at the time and it wasn't clear that they would still be viable come transfer. I sent out her dilemma to a group of friends and the good thoughts started pouring in...

People who had never met Mary added their good thoughts to her wishes. Not only was she touched by the outpouring of kindness from strangers, but the wish came true: she made it to transfer even though at first it looked as if no embryos would be viable. On the spooky front, though only two eggs were fertilized prior to the wish going out, after the good thoughts started pouring in, she was notified that two more eggs fertilized and they had three available for transfer.

*****

The Wish Project came about after that exchange. I thought about all the times I have sent good thoughts to another person or made a wish on their behalf. And how it just feels less lonely to know that someone else is sharing the burden of your hope--someone else is believing alongside you.

This is the driving thought: if you post your wish or your hope in this space, I promise to add my energy to your words and wish alongside you. You will, at the very least, have an additional person wishing for you too. But my other hope for this project is that if you have a few minutes in your day and you can send some good thoughts out there for another person, you will read through the comments and repeat their words to yourself, holding their hope for a moment in your hands in order to add strength to the wish.

Do I believe that it is as simple as speaking words and making them come true? No. But I still wish on stars and I still drop pennies into fountains because I think putting those feelings into words gives one a sense of purpose and direction. We can all use some hope--and the point is not even the wish itself. It's that there are hundreds of people that have your back on the days when you can't have your own back. And that is the power of community.

It would be nice, when wishes do come true, to return and leave a comment about that and spend a few minutes reading through the other comments and helping them with their wishes. It is simply a way of offering a hand back to those who are still waiting for their wish to come true.

So there you have it, the history of the Wish Project. Now go give support and take support as well.

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